心态 Thought

为什么会有这样的心态。。y i will have this kind of thought?
越在乎越辛苦。。more mind more tough..
没有付出不要想得到回报。。no pay out no wan think get return..

矛盾。。contradiction..
你这样做是对是错。。in this way is wrong or correct?
苦吃下去就不苦了。。after eat bitter,we no feel bitter..